Sunday, February 27, 2011

Puffy hair, crushes and favorite words

The other day Adele told Ceci her hair looked "puffy...like Sister Hardman's" (last year Sister Hardman was both Ceci and Adele's Primary teacher). She followed up with saying she knew Ceci didn't have hairspray in her hair like Sister Hardman. I asked how she knew Sister Hardman used hairspray, and she told me, "One day in class Sister Hardman invited us up to a small table to look at some pictures. On the way up I just HAD to touch her hair." I asked if she touched it and she said, "I went up and touched Sister Hardman's hair (full of hairspray), and Ceci saw me do it, and she reached over and touched her hair too...and then the other kids lined up to touch her hair, but Sister Hardman said, 'Now, now children... let's not do that.'"


Yesterday the girls and I talked about crushes on boys (and how they would NEVER tell Geoff or me about them) when Ceci said, "Yeah, and it isn't very fun to be crushed on!" (For someone to have a crush on you).

Today on the way to church we had a conversation that shows the personality differences between two of my girls perfectly. Adele said, "Mom, I have two favorite words." I asked what they were. "Horses and...gentle." I asked if she liked the word 'gentle' for the way it sounds or for what it means. She thoughtfully replied, "Both." We then talked about people we knew who were gentle. Then Tennie offered, "I have a favorite word...BOP!" I guess that about sums them up!

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Recollections VII

What inhibits learning? Smart Moves goes into a lot of detail here, and I found this particularly interesting after learning about the many different stressors that affect our body/mind during Geoff's illness. As a matter of fact, the class on stress I attended just over three years ago (that tied together the various health issues Geoff was struggling with, and which finally moved us to the right diagnosis) basically taught the same things. I'll state learning inhibitors/stressors here for children, but they go for us adults too.

External Stress
Having to sit still in school
Developmentally inappropriate curriculums
Rigid systems at school and home
High expectations at school and home
Societal expectations
Environments that are not calm and safe and predictable
Tests
Competitive sports/games
Learned helplessness

TV, Computers, and Video Games
Lack of movement
Lack of imaginative development
Lack of interactive communication
Occular lock (the muscles in the eyes form incorrectly)
Violence

Chemicals/Electromagnetic fields
Chemicals in food, body care products, household products, furniture, carpet, air, etc. (The more we can eliminate the better.)

Electromagnetic fields from microwaves, cell phones, computers, and all electronics (they have a different wave frequency than what our bodies have - they are much faster. At close distances these faster wave lengths disrupt our body's natural wave lengths.)

Nutrition and Water
Sugar in all its forms
Too many carbohydrates
Processed foods
Eating too much
Lack of variety contributing to a deficiency in vitamins, minerals and essential fatty acids
Not enough water

Exercise
Lack of movement
Inadequate oxygen supply
Obesity

Sleep
Not enough
Going to bed late (Good sleep is critical. Sleep clinics to scriptures say go to bed early and get up early. Research shows that any sleep you get before midnight is like getting double sleep. There are physiological rhythms that we support by going to bed early.)

Clearly to eliminate stress in our lives it requires lifestyle changes! While challenging (it goes against our cultural tide) it is possible, at least to some degree. It is all about choices and priorities.

In Waldorf Schools these stressors are strongly discouraged in both school and the students homes. (While I don't love every aspect of a Waldorf Education you can see I love a lot of it!)

There is one more Reflection, and that is on Nature. Stay tuned, or tune out...which ever you are inclined with these long, photo-less posts!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Flu Be Gone!

After 9 days of being housebound with the flu the girls are finally ready to move on with regular life; poor Geoff is in the middle of flu misery, and so far I'm holding strong. After many pots of soup, countless batches of fresh-squeezed orange juice and lemon/ginger tea, mountains of used tissue, naps, and much complaining we aired out the house today, the girls played outside, and I had a moment of rest. Nothing like a horrible cold or flu to make regular life seem FANTASTIC!

Adele's friend gave her a little bird-feeder sock and some seed for her birthday. Goldfinches flock to it constantly. For a girl who wants 100 pets, this was a great present.

A few days ago the girls bundled up and laid out a blanket to watch the birds. When I looked out the window to check on them this is what I saw:

Nothing like napping in the sun!

When the girls had spurts of feeling well they played their usual games...

Playing "Old people" (Can you see the band-aid on her nose?)

Recollections VI

Continuation on movement...

Many people are able to concentrate and learn better when moving. It doesn't have to be associated with any type of subject. Our girls crave movement. When we require stillness they hold putty in their hands and squeeze, roll, and form it so that even in a small way they can move. Adele chews gum all through school to help her focus. Some people doodle or knit, and others think most clearly when walking, or folding laundry.

Certain movements help us learn more effectively. Cross lateral movements (crossing the midline of the body) gets both sides of the body working together, including arms, legs, eyes and ears. Smart Moves talks a lot about Brain Gym. Brain Gym uses movement to re-pattern the brain, or to strengthen weak connections. The exercises can help all people who want active and alert brains. Many activities previously mentioned like crawling, jumping, spinning, swinging, etc. activate and/or strengthen the proprioceptive and vestibular systems in the brain. Those are used in Brain Gym. But there are additional exercises that can be done before school/work, and after lunch, that will increase effectiveness and concentration. The author recommends a few good books to get us started: S'cool Moves for Learning, Brain Gym Teacher's Edition, and Brain Gym: Simple Activities for Whole Brain Learning.

I also came across a helpful organization in Australia that helps kids with different learning challenges through Brain Gym-like movements. It has an assessment you can give your kids to see what areas they might need help with, and then some exercises to strengthen that area. If you are interested you can visit www.betterlearninginstitute.com.

In summary, we have learned to GET MOVING!

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Recollections V

It has been awhile since I wrote Recollections I, II, and III but I still intend to finish posting our learnings while here in Auburn! This post is about a book called Smart Moves: Why Learning is Not All In Your Head. Five or so years ago Tennie's music teacher in Washington, Sharla Dance, introduced me to this book. I tried to get through it but it went right over my head and I returned it.

When our developmental pediatrician recommended it I bought our own copy and determined to try to digest it. This time I understood what the author was suggesting (even if it will take me awhile to get down the brain language). The main premise is that the mind is not separate from the body. The body plays an integral part in all learning processes. In children, movement strengthens the proprioceptive and vestibular systems in the brain that I mentioned previously. If we provide time and the right environment (trampolines, swings, monkey bars, merry-go-rounds, slides, ladders, balance beams, bikes, skates, ropes for jump-roping and tug-o-war, trees for climbing, etc.) children will naturally love these activities because their bodies intuitively know they need these movements to grow both physically and mentally. Movement activates the neural wiring throughout the body. Unfortunately too many kids sit in front of screens (TV, computers, video games, etc.) and don't get this kind of movement. This can be a contributing factor to ADHD and other behavioral problems. This book talks quite a bit about the damaging effects of screen time, but I won't go into that here. Years ago we read a book called Endangered Minds: Why Children Don't Think and What We Can Do About It. We've been committed to limiting screen time since!

Einstein said, "Learning is experience. Everything else is just information." Smart Moves would agree. It demonstrates scientifically that for learning to establish meaningful connections there must be movement involved, and then learning is not complete until there is some output, some physical, personal expression of thought. We often think of muscles as part of the body's domain, but they are equally important to the mind.

There are many muscles in our jaws that move when we speak or sing, and there are a lot of muscles at work in our hands when we write and draw. Multiple muscles are used to play music and move gracefully in dance and sports. The active, muscular expression of learning is an important ingredient of that learning. For this reason the book argues that there should be more drama, art, music and athletics in schools, not less.

Waldorf schools base their entire curriculum around the development of a child's body and mind. They use drama, art, music and athletics to teach math, writing, history and the rest. We know a handful of kids that went to Waldorf Schools during their elementary years and are now homeschooled (for various reasons...none of which was because they didn't love the experience at the Waldorf School). All of them are incredibly focused, scholarly, musical, artistic, and comfortable with who they are. Their parents tell me the Waldorf experience allowed their kids to be and do what their natural bodies and minds wanted to do at every given age. The environment was always loving and safe and full of exploration, wonder, and expression. By the time the children moved into adolescence they had so much more mental, emotional and physical bandwidth to really focus and apply themselves. And they do so willingly and with earnest. Smart Moves says, "It is the full activation and balance of all parts of our body/mind system that allow us to become effective, productive thinkers." These kids we know confirm that.

Let me go back to Tennie's music teacher Sharla Dance, who first gave me this book. Now that I know a little bit more, I can see how brilliant she was as a music teacher. Most of her group piano classes were filled with playing games, and dancing to the songs the kids were learning. They were learning the songs in their muscles first, and then when they sat down to play the song on the piano they played it so much more easily. She uses these same principles to teach the children songs in Primary (the children organization at church). She is writing a book, and I'll be the first to buy it. Her website has some sneak peeks into some of the chapters, and is full of effective ideas to teach children music. Not only are the ideas super fun for kids, but the kids feel successful. If you are interested her website is www.toteachachildasong.com.

To Be Continued...

Friday, February 18, 2011

Flu Blues

All three of the girls have a nasty flu. Luckily it isn't the vomiting sort, but it is still very miserable. They are all too uncomfortable to do anything (read, draw, etc.) and yet complain of boredom. They are all starving, but nothing sounds good. They are all achy and want others to know. They all want an adult at their side every minute.

Yesterday we set up camp downstairs. I read a lot, they listened to books on tape, and when they felt up to it they looked through books and magazines. The only time they got up was to go to the bathroom.


Today, day three, there is a little improvement, but they are still laying low. Ceci has been begging us to teach her to read for months and months. We are trying to put it off until she is a little older, ideally 8 (although I knew she wouldn't make it until then). Well, a few days ago she got out the Bob early reading books and started to read. She needed help with a few sounds, but she was determined. Here she is reading to Geoff for the first time today. Applause and hoopla all around. Wahoo Ceci!!!


Hopefully in a day or two we'll be back on our feet. But for now we're still experiencing the Flu Blues!

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Self-directed learning

The past few days I have allowed the girls to direct their own learning throughout the day. Tennie has spent most of her time drawing girls. She draws them at each age. She draws their mothers and grandmothers. She feels nostalgic when they are grown up.

She also creates individual profiles. She goes into great detail about the girl, and her likes and dislikes. Later she often plays with them as a paper doll. The become very real to her.

At first I was a little concerned that she was "wasting time". With more thought I realized she is strengthening her writing skills. She is learning to develop characters that are real and believable...anything but a waste of time.

On a different note, since the girls know there is no chance of us buying them an iphone ("but everyone else has one") they have decided to create their own.

Apps included

No end to their creativity!